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Post by Vittoria on Feb 5, 2009 0:52:19 GMT
An unfortunate number of therapists have preconceived notions of normalcy. However, the good ones are worth their weight in gold! (And no, I'm not a therapist of any kind.) Thanks for the tip. I've never heard of Kellogs Vector. Is it called something else in the US? Exactly! I think the whole D.S.M. method is flawed as it's so typically over-used. For example, because I wasn't diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder until I was 40 and also had to deal with trauma issues, I had gone to so many docs trying to get help because I knew I was different somehow. But I learned to hide this so well so I wouldn't get beat up by bullies at school. Plus my training in adulthood helped me immensely which further covered up what was the underlying factor. No one seemed to see it. Docs were either putting every type of label onto me imaginable or saying there was nothing going on at all! I ended up figuring it out myself after watching the CSI episode wherein there is a geeky librarian guy... I was thinking "Geez. His mannerisms, attitude, etc... it all looks like me- especially when I was a kid. I went online and looked up the D.S.M. info and figured Asperger's Syndrome. Then, I went to a child psych at age 40, let down all the masks I usually wear in public and just let him see that part of me. Most doctors do not know what to look for in adults as we all tend to learn to adapt to varius degrees if we are Higher Functioning. I was lucky to find him! It took five very intensive sessions with my guard down. However, with alternative lifestyles, too often psychs see perversion. ...Homosexuality. BD/SM and vampirism included. Anyone who lives any or all of these is deemed to be ill by doctors. And of course, one must never say they're into magick of any sort or it would be deemed "magical thinking". The psych who met me during the "fangs" period thought I may be schizophrenic- a diagnosis ruled out by other doctors over the years. She missed the Austism altogether and attempted an hypothesiis based on one visit. She didn't bother to find out all of the "whys" for what I was doing. Personally, I have come to the conclusion that for the most part, unless they are specialists in a particular field of psychiatry and stick to that field only (she was an eating disorders dr), they don't know what the hell they're talking about. If they did, I have so many personality, mood and thought disorders that "I'm goin off the rails on a crazy train" and someone had best put me in a straight jacket, throw me into a rubber room and throw away the key! One of my favourite movie lines is from A Leaugue of Extraordinary Gentleman, wherein Dorian Gray is asked, "What are you?" when all the bullets fired at him simply have no effect. He answers, "Complicated". As for Vector cereal, I am not sure if there is a different name in the States. In Canada you can get the cold cereal (which I use) or cereal bars. Here is the nutrition info and some peoples' comments about it. www.acurazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=338626I hope you find the stuff. It totally rocks! |
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Post by rueful on Feb 5, 2009 5:29:58 GMT
I'm glad you were able to find someone who could help you open up. Just having some answers is such a relief. I agree about the need for specializing. Doctors who treat the rest of the body often specialize in one area because there is so much to know. How can someone treating the mind possibly know about all the different disorders, traumas, differences, and coping mechanisms that the human race is subject to?
That's awesome! I'm going to use that somehow (hope you don't mind my blatant stealing).
Thanks for the info on Vector. I'll see what I can dig up.
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Post by Vittoria on Feb 6, 2009 10:34:30 GMT
I'm glad you were able to find someone who could help you open up. Just having some answers is such a relief. I agree about the need for specializing. Doctors who treat the rest of the body often specialize in one area because there is so much to know. How can someone treating the mind possibly know about all the different disorders, traumas, differences, and coping mechanisms that the human race is subject to? Yes. Exactly what I'm saying. ... However, I don't know to what extent it was him helping me to open up and me just letting my guard down even before the first session. I think he really helped me to continue to be open once I was open even though I had to rehash some painful memories. And that is tough for me with most people. I said: Rueful said: Isn't that line absolutely priceless? I love it! That and the Lord of the Rings wherein Gandolf says, "You shall not pass!" Your welcome about the Vector. The unique aspect of the cereal is that it also serves as a meal replacement. |
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Post by tipou on Feb 6, 2009 14:28:52 GMT
THANK YOU LIFE FOR DIFFERENCES
what i dont get is, for any phase or attitude or behavior to be called an illness, shouldn't it bring or show pain to the person, or to people around him/her?
if not, what is ill about it exactly?
if one day i decided to have peacock feather implants on my forehead, who's to say i'm sick?
who's standards am i supposed to live by?
anyway, vittoria, bf got online from his igloo to spy on us gals, he saw your pic and thinks you are very pretty. so there you go.
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Post by Vittoria on Feb 7, 2009 6:43:46 GMT
THANK YOU LIFE FOR DIFFERENCES what i dont get is, for any phase or attitude or behavior to be called an illness, shouldn't it bring or show pain to the person, or to people around him/her? if not, what is ill about it exactly? if one day i decided to have peacock feather implants on my forehead, who's to say i'm sick? who's standards am i supposed to live by? I love your way with words, Tipou! Peacock feather! ROTFLMAO! Well, anyway... I think it is all misunderstanding, not taking necessary time and effort to find out what is going on, doctors thinking they know more about an individual with only a few or even only one visit than an individual knows about him/herself, and lack of personal experience and observation in alternative lifestyles. Assumptions... generalities.... ignorant b.s.... bigotry diguised as medicine. You're absolutely correct..If something is not causing harm to an individual and/or others... who the f--k cares? Of course, then there are misconceptions and assumptions about what is or is not harmful. Really, from what I have experienced and/or observed and/or studied... I really wonder whom are the really sick parties: the ones in alt lifestyles or the ones who judge them? There are sick people in every walk of life and some alt lifestyles are more dangerous than others if you don't know what to look for safety-wise, but I have met a number of people from various walks of life who may even seem like society's freaks and they are the coolest and nicest people around. Also, because various alt lifestyles have a prerequisite of examining one's own psyche more deeply than most people, alts can be the most well-balanced people too.  Please do thank your bf for the lovely compliment and thank you for passing it on! That is very sweet of you. ~big hug~ |
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Post by rueful on Feb 20, 2009 12:48:09 GMT
DGD, last night I saw Kath & Kim, a show I've never watched before, and the whole episode was about how the Mom used to be big in derby and how her daughter wanted to join. It was very silly and full of derby stereotypes, I'm sure. I thought of you the whole time!
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Post by dirtygirldiva on Feb 20, 2009 21:30:28 GMT
hehehehe thank you rueful!! I don't normally watch that show, but I did last night because of the derby theme. And yes....the whole idea of a man owning the derby and running it like a business was the biggest flaw really. It looked more like it did in the 80's...but the attitudes of the girls was almost spot on. Not sure what team they used but it had to be one of the few that still use banked tracks, since the majority all use flat tracks now. *update* found out who they featured... washingtondc.craigslist.org/doc/com/1041361887.htmlHeheheheh |
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Post by dirtygirldiva on Feb 20, 2009 21:32:50 GMT
guess who?   |
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Post by tipou on Feb 20, 2009 23:37:05 GMT
is it you? our baby DGD? even as a baby, you were ready to drool!!! no wonder you ended up here.
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Post by rueful on Feb 21, 2009 6:26:32 GMT
It was a pretty silly show, but it was fun. I did love how the derby girls harassed the younger girl's husband.
Cute baby pics!
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Post by dirtygirldiva on Feb 21, 2009 6:27:19 GMT
heheheheheh
thank you. my momma always said i was special!
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Post by lizap on Feb 21, 2009 7:52:57 GMT
I love your banner, DGD! It took me awhile to notice that figure lounging on Roof's shoulder. Nice touch!
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Post by Vittoria on Feb 21, 2009 21:04:28 GMT
Cute pics, DGD!
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Post by dirtygirldiva on Feb 23, 2009 15:52:50 GMT
danka!
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Please do thank your bf for the lovely compliment and thank you for passing it on! That is very sweet of you. ~big hug~
