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Post by rueful on Jan 30, 2009 2:05:02 GMT
Peach, I completely understand your occasional doubts. Sometimes I tell myself, "Do you think he's spending any time thinking about you and analyzing your talents, wardrobe, and haircut (good lord I hope not)? Of course not...he is not aware of your existence on this planet and most likely would think anyone who "wasted" so much of their time in this manner was kind of a dope." I don't mean just Rufus would think that, but any sensible celebrity who deserves notice, the true talents who act (or whatever their talent is) for the love of their craft. (The overexposed reality star kind, on the other hand, think it's all about them, and expect and desire such adulation.) I have never been this obsessed, and I don't know what it is that causes it. And I'm not sure I want to be helped right now. So, when thoughts like that plague me too much, I just have a green tea smoothie and turn on a Rufus audiobook until they go away!  |
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Post by tipou on Jan 30, 2009 2:35:23 GMT
well... yeah... i know what you mean.
and i chose to totally ignore the self doubt for the time being!!! LOL!!
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Post by peach on Jan 30, 2009 2:38:27 GMT
Yes that sounds like psych 101 to me, not to sure about the smoothie thing, although I love green tea. Anyway, there is something about him though that resonates with all of us. Perhaps because he is not spoiled by his suceess and that for the most part he remains grounded, you never see him in the tabloids and for the most part keeps a low profile. Amazing in and of itself that he hasn't succumbed to the lure of gratuitous garbage that one see in his industry. Good for him and especially good for us.
I think of the very talented Heath Ledger, and how so very talented he was. My God the possibilites that awaited him. SO sad. Two very talented people with two very different paths. Can't explain it.
And yes in total agreement, I too do not wish to be helped at this juncture. I'm having way too much fun.
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Post by rugirl on Jan 30, 2009 2:53:15 GMT
I first got hooked on Ru in A Knights Tale, but it was the second time around I saw it that got me. I saw it originally in the theatre and thought he was handsome, but when I rented it, really paid attention to him and was very attracted.
Then I saw him an Honest Courtesan (Dangerous Beauty here in the US, which makes it sound like a movie about a horse race for God's sake), and I was hooked. All the other movies, Cold Comfort Farm, Carrington, Woodlanders, Victory, have just heightened my admiration for his talent and lust for the rest of him.
And yes, I agree, a green tea smoothie does sound great...but then so does the Merlot Peach was talking about earlier.....
Are we as a group normal? Probably not. But I think normal is overrated...
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Post by tipou on Jan 30, 2009 2:57:48 GMT
about ledger vs rufus : the fact is that heath met success at a very early age.
experience is lacking, defense system too... i suppose you get eaten alive.
i read an article where rufus said of heath ledger that he was alrite, but very young, that "someone should talk to him". that was years before he died. certainly other people said the same thing. but hollywood glorifies its james deans, it needs young flesh to be thrown to the lions.
the more time passes, the more i feel guilty whenever i read celebrity gossips, which i used to enjoy. at one point, you cannot help but think that those are real people there, even if they want the attention, should i give it? am i one among the roman audience watching the lions eat the christians alive?
i dont mind so much "drooling" over a movie star, women have had this past time since the time of rudolf valentino, we are not worse now than they were before. at least we seem to chose people with more talent!
but i sometimes question my "humour" about them. is it dehumanizing?especially when the target of said humour seems to be a genuinely nice human being. my jokes of this afternoon about the big swords were all very funny, but what if it wasnt me telling these jokes about someone else, but someone else telling these jokes about me? would i like it?
ok lise, enough with the public confession, go start the vcr, and drool in private...
peach, dont do that ever again, pushing the sef doubt button!!!!
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Post by peach on Jan 30, 2009 3:07:35 GMT
Tip, I will promise to do that. I am consumed with self doubt and have no idea why. Honest I will in earnest try my best to stop doubting. I'm in a state of flux right now, can't put a finger on it but I will do my best. Thank you for your kind words. Thank the Lord for this board. (ha, I made a rhyme!!!) Have fun watching.  |
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Post by ambra on Jan 30, 2009 6:52:22 GMT
Tip, I will promise to do that. I am consumed with self doubt and have no idea why. Honest I will in earnest try my best to stop doubting. I'm in a state of flux right now, can't put a finger on it but I will do my best. Thank you for your kind words. Thank the Lord for this board. (ha, I made a rhyme!!!) Have fun watching. Well, this is the way I look at it: Is it a little silly sometimes that I, an almost 42-year-old woman, goes weak in the knees and gushes profusely about a man who I don't even know personally and who doesn't even know I exist? Sure, but it's harmless. I don't neglect any of my real-life responsiblilties or go to extremes, although I'll be the first to admit that I've spent more money than I should have lately on building my Rufus dvd collection. Now, if I hop on a plane and fly to LA, or London, or wherever Rufus is and start lurking in his bushes, digging through his trash, or send him messages along the lines of "God told me we should be together" then it would be time to worry! However, if he happened to be filming ever again in VA or somewhere else close-by, a road trip would definitely be in order! There's no way I'd pass up the chance, no matter how slim, to get to meet him and tell him in person what a wonderful actor I think he is, which brings me to this: it's not like those of us on this forum only talk about how we like Rufus for his looks. We also discuss his merits as not only an actor but as a person. Our conversations on those subjects are usually very thoughtful and intelligent, even when they drift back to discussing his physical qualities. So rejoice in your fandom, ladies! It's harmless fun and Ruf deserves and has earned the admiration! |
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Post by tipou on Jan 30, 2009 7:04:37 GMT
thanks, ambra, i think you summed it all, and offered us redemption!
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Post by quoll on Jan 30, 2009 21:35:32 GMT
LOL Ambra. you have summed it up nicely. I admit to having flown across the world to see R & R in London but lacked the courage to wait around the stage door so wasnt lurking in any bushes at all!
I admit it was TOTS which got me started in earnest although I did have quite a soft spot for Will Ladislaw a while ago. So many of his movies had either not come my way or not been the sort of thing I would have voluntarily gone to see. I now have a great collection of his work and never cease to be amazed by the variety and chameleon like capacity he has to "be" the people he portrays. With his distinctive looks it would be so easy for one to see it was Rufus playing Adhemar or Rufus being Agamemnon but it isnt, you see Adhemar and Agamemnon.
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Post by ambra on Jan 30, 2009 22:11:03 GMT
LOL Ambra. you have summed it up nicely. I admit to having flown across the world to see R & R in London but lacked the courage to wait around the stage door so wasnt lurking in any bushes at all! I admit it was TOTS which got me started in earnest although I did have quite a soft spot for Will Ladislaw a while ago. So many of his movies had either not come my way or not been the sort of thing I would have voluntarily gone to see. I now have a great collection of his work and never cease to be amazed by the variety and chameleon like capacity he has to "be" the people he portrays. With his distinctive looks it would be so easy for one to see it was Rufus playing Adhemar or Rufus being Agamemnon but it isnt, you see Adhemar and Agamemnon. If I had the money, I'd probably fly out to London to see him onstage too but I would've been standing around outside the stage door. I would've kicked myself if I'd missed out on the opportunity to meet him. I totally agree with you about his performances! I always see him as the character, not as Rufus playing the character. His looks and his talent make him stand out from the crowd! |
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Post by peach on Jan 31, 2009 2:47:32 GMT
Ambra, well said. I feel better already.
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Post by lassie on Feb 1, 2009 21:47:34 GMT
I think we are all normal. It's everyone else who isn't! My friends/family enjoy teasing me about Rufus, but I don't care. This site is fantastic.
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Post by peach on Feb 2, 2009 1:10:01 GMT
Yes it is, isn't it? I get teased by my sister too, my mom is crazy about him too, so we enjoy watching his movies together. I love this board!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by miss october on Feb 2, 2009 2:22:28 GMT
I think it's just human nature to admire other people!
(as long as you don't use their photos to wallpaper your bathroom or something, we're okay!)
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Post by Vittoria on Feb 2, 2009 7:50:15 GMT
First, his eyes drew me in via EH. Each week I would tune in and the more often I watched it, the more I realized it was him being in the show moreso than the show (which I also really dig) drawing me to watch. I so love the genius and the gentleness about Hood anyway and I'm into shows that blend crime fiction with science. I was so intrigued by him however... and his beautiful eyes.. wondering who is behind those eyes, that I decided to google Rufus. Eventually, I found the YouTube vid of 9/11 and was blown away by his range and expression which further fascinated me. Fandom hit me and I came here. I am learning more about him here and the movies he is in and I am growing to appreciate him as an actor and as a person besides his gorgeousness. That pretty much sums it up. What is truly unusual about my overall attraction to him, by the way, is that I am usually attracted to men who are in their mid-late 20's with long black hair and whom also wear makeup in a goth fashion and usually they are in rock bands or look like they are and usually they have cyberpunk industrial heavy metal attitudes. My MySpace friends- some whom are actually my friends- are enough to show that bit. Oh how I love intrigue and eccentricity! And oh do I ever love leather pants on a gorgeous man (that bit is just my lust speaking) . But... Does this new found overall Rufus attraction mean I am actually growing up? Eeegads! Scary thought! But I'm loving the journey and appreciation of Mr Sewell is getting me there somehow. Go figure! A gorgeous and talented man in my age range even!  Does all of this mean that my 43 year old self who looks like I'm in my 20's anyway is actually going to stop head banging? Not likely... but I am sure enjoying this. Indeed! Perhaps growing up is not so bad after all! Maybe one day- if I find good reason- I will tone down the goth look in me and carry myself differently. Who knows? What an adventure I've started on. Some of you have mentioned how all of us here seem to be grown ups with school girl attitudes. Well- I'm all bassackwards now- and my world is flipped upside right. Does this make any sense? LOL! Light City all the way now Baby! WooHoo!  |
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